This post is going to be about freshman year of college…what a time to be alive. If you are a freshman reading this take all that I say into consideration and think about it, but know that this upcoming year is such a learning experience and a time for growth. It is a year that even with the best advice and preparation is something that will just have to happen. You’ll love it and hate it, but it’ll be great! Also head back to the beginning of the blog to see my thoughts while going through it!
Freshman year is full of so many emotions. Everyone keeps telling you that “college is the best years of your life” and that “you’ll have so much fun”. Yes, but they never tell you that it can be hard too. Just think about it…you are going to a new school, leaving your parents, meeting new people everyday, leaving your friends, moving into a room with most likely a stranger or someone you’ve met once, and trying to find your place all at one time. Not to mention you have to go to classes that most likely are harder than you high school class. That’s a lot to handle and a lot of new things at once. It’s hard but incredible at the same time. I mean you get to make new friends, you get to try new things, you get to grow and find who you are.
For me the biggest thing was letting myself feel all of these emotions at once and telling myself that it was okay and normal to do so. It was hard to feel left out or unmotivated. It was hard to not feel good enough or worthy enough. It was hard. Emotions are what make us human and make us unique. Feel what your feeling…realize it’s okay…then change something to make it better. Something I was told freshman that helped so much was “It’s okay to not be okay, but it’s not okay to stay that way!”
Community ended up being the best thing of my freshman year. Finding community or a group of people who care about you and build you up makes all the difference. I didn’t truly feel like I had a community until 2nd semester when I went on a mission trip with a group called Freshly. It changed my entire year after that because I knew that I had friends and supporters who cared so deeply about me and how I was doing. Find that and it will change your year for sure. Find that niche or sorority that makes you feel good. Find that club or organization that you love with people you love. It takes some consistency, effort, and stepping out of your comfort zone, but it is beyond worth it. These are life long friends you making so it takes time but is incredible!
Give everyone a chance. You never know who will be your best friend, you study partner, you coffee date groupie, your encourager, your inspiration, or your role model. You never know, so give everyone the chance to make a difference in your life. Don’t judge them by what you’ve heard or expect them to be the same person to you as they are to someone else. Each relationship is so different but special in each way. This past year I met 3 juniors and each one means the world to me. They inspire me and make me re think who I really want to be. They each are different people therefore I share different experience with each, but I wouldn’t want to change the time I have with them individually! Give everyone the chance they deserve.
It’s hard finding a balance in a world that you haven’t known before. In high school you had two seperate lives: your school life at school, your home life with your family at home. You were able to escape the school and go home to a house with only your family and vice versa with home to school. In college you mix social, home, and school together in one big place with very little escape. You have a room (more like a card board box) but there is still someone there. It is hard balance everything. Watching too much netflix, not doing your homework, going out all the time. You cannot do it all all the time. It just can’t happen. Finding a balance is so nessecary. You are in college for school, but you are also there to grow as a person and to have fun. My balance first semester ended up with me leaving my dorm for class at 9 then going to class/ doing homework all day (which is fine because nothing really happens until 7pm anyway) then going back relaxing some then hanging out with friends, going to an event with my sorority, or going to a church service. Your need to find a balance to ensure everything doesn’t spiral out of control (ha).
Freshman is an incredible time for learning and experiencing. It gives you so many chance to be whoever you want, and to try things you always wanted to try. The oppertunities are endless, but it take courage to step out and take them. It’s a great time full of emotions, fun, and new things. Don’t take any moment for granted, but also take time to reflect on what you have learned and who has made a difference in your eyes.
Writing it all out helps to much. Journals get a bad wrap that’s for sure, but I always find that writing my thoughts out helps me to process them so much better. Grab a moleskin and a pencil and write one a week, or a sentence everyday. See what it does for you. Writing this post has helped realize what I want to change for the upcoming year and who really made an impact on my past year.
Thanks for listening/ reading! And remember this doesn’t just apply to freshman year, this applies to everyone at any point in life. Take chances, be yourself, feel your emotions, love the people around you, and find your balance.